All posts tagged Co-workers

How Do You Spend the First Four Minutes at Work?

Susan DiMickele - WorkWe’ve been talking about the Four Minute Rule on the Working Mom’s Devotional.  Simply put, the first four minutes of a human encounter form an impression.  We make up our minds about people in the first four minutes.  Period.  This is true with our families, friends, and even our coworkers.

So I got to thinking.  How do I spend my first four minutes at work?

It’s not a pretty sight.  Continue reading →

How To Deal With A Sexist Jerk

A female lawyer recently complained to me about the sexist conduct of her male opponent.
“He is treating me like his secretary!  Right in front of my client!  I’ve never been so embarrassed in all my life.  He actually asked me to make copies for him because his secretary was gone for the day.  Then he made some joke about how I’m young enough to be his daughter.  I wanted to slap him, but of course I had to keep my cool in front of my client.  But mark my words, when this case is over I am going to send him an email and let him have it!”

I listened with interest and shook my head.  I’ve been in her shoes before.  Too many times.  (In my early years of practice, I actually remember wanting a few gray hairs.)

She continued, “What would you do if you were in my shoes?” Continue reading →

Does Prayer Work At Work?

Do you forget to pray at work?  I have to admit, I often doubt that God cares about conference calls and billable hours.  Sometimes, I think prayer doesn’t even matter in the office.  Right?


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When Is Healthy Competition Unhealthy?

Most workplaces thrive on competition.  Especially – especially – law firms.  I happen to know. 

After sixteen years of working at one of the largest and most competitive law firms on the planet, I’ve come to accept the inevitable: my work is often a zero sum game. 

Someone has to win.  Someone has to lose.  Welcome to the profession.

This reality hit me hard last week after a successful jury trial.  I extended my hand to the losing party, but he pulled away with anger and harsh words. (His wife also gave me a big scowl.)  What was I expecting, a hug?  After all, the goal in court is to win, not to make nice. 

Court isn’t the only place lawyers compete.  We compete for clients.  We compete for talent.  We compete with other lawyers.  We compete on behalf of our clients.  So why should internal competition be any different? 

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What Would Your Co-Workers Say About You?

When I first saw this prompt for Working Mommy Wednesday, I thought, Maybe I’ll just ask.  You know, I could send an email to my co-workers asking, “Just tell me what you think about me, so I can blog about it.”

But that wouldn’t be fair.  That would ruin all the fun.  So here goes.

My coworkers would probably say that I like being in charge.  I have specific ideas about how things should be done.  My way!  And, while I try to be open minded and listen to others, it can be pretty difficult to change my mind.  You have to be persuasive.  Expect some push back.

Another thing about me?  I can be a control freak.  While I’m all for delegation (because, if done right, it can involve me doing less work), I expect things to be done at a certain standard.  I have a passion for excellence.  And, while I’ve gotten much better at delegation over the last few years, I’m better at telling people what to do than showing them how to do it.  Training takes time and patience, and I’m not a teacher by nature.  I’m a doer.  So, unless you’re a mind reader, you’re probably not going to know exactly what I expect from you.  Sorry.

My co-workers would also say that I push the envelope.  A little too much.  I’m known to over commit and over book.  I work best under tight deadlines so I’m not going to focus on something unless I really need to.  But when I do become focused and get in “the zone”  I can be a little cranky.

Last but certainly not least, I really like to have fun at work.  And sometimes, when circumstances don’t cooperate, you have to make lemonade out of lemons.  (And then drink the entire pitcher!)  I have little tolerance for people who always see the glass half empty.

I hope my co-workers would say that I lead by example.  That I admit my mistakes.  That I’m willing to take one for the team, even if it’s at my own expense.

What do you think your co-workers would say about you?  (Maybe I need to just participate in one of those 360 evaluations and find out the truth!)